old emails, and question to ask y'all

Boy and I began our relationship on a rocky start. I had just gotten rid of an overstayed rude houseguest, his ex still thought they were dating, but we really liked each other. A month later, an infatuated British boy from London flew to New York to see me, and his ex broke down hysterically in my room, threatening to slit her throat. Then my houseguest ends up moving in with his ex, while the British boy and his ex exchange horror stories about me. Twisted enough?

I don't know if anything could've been different about our start. If I had been firm about when the guest could stay till (he overstayed by a horrifying 3 weeks), if he had been frank with his ex, would things be different? As for the infatuated British boy, it was concluded that I had mislead him, flirted with him online to the point that he believed I was in love with him, and in an argument once, Boy looked at me and said: "I've read the emails you sent him. [My ex] sent them to me." And I shut up, and thought to myself, "Oh my God, I'm a horrible person. I mislead someone to fly from London to NYC to visit me, and then called him a stalker and abandoned him to visit Boy." But you know what?

Below is an exerpt of an email I received after everything had exploded, with parts of what I wrote included in his reply indicated by the ">":

>i'm not comfortable with the way things are going. when you first said you could come

>to nyc, i was happy beyond belief, but i thought i made it clear that i do have exams next

>week, i am seeing [Boy], and that we were meeting under the contexts that we were to be

>friends. Friends that were trying to build a strong basis for our friendship shoudl [sic]

>i ever decide to go to the UK.

This is true, and I never implied otherwise. In fact I sent you email saying that I understood that you had to do work and that I did not want you to fail your exams. However, you did not exactly say "I am seeing [Boy]" - you said "I am inclined to start a relationship with [Boy]".

He had known that we were seeing each other every weekend, but Boy and I weren't sure if we were ready to be serious. In my recollection, I actually said: "I'm going to start a relationship with [Boy]", i.e. we were getting more serious than just seeing each other every weekend. And in all aspects, I think our email exchange made it VERY clear what was going on-- it was a FRIENDSHIP, nothing more.

I don't know if Boy saw that email or some stupid email that the infatuated British boy made up, sent to his crazy ex, and his crazy ex forwarded to him, I dont know, but what I do know is that before he booked his stupid flight from London to NYC, he knew VERY clearly what my intentions were. Right?

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need your opinion on this, i'm torn--
i'm getting a pet when i get my own apartment in september, and i dont' know if i should get a cat, or a dog.

during the academic year, i will be in class half days, and during summers, i will be working 9-5pm. i travel often. i'll be in a small 1BR in a semi-big city during the academic year, and a rural sleepy summer town during summers. i want to take my pet, dog or cat, on frequent walks. i want an affectionate pet to sit on my lap, and sleep in my bed. growing up, i've always had dogs and never owned a cat. if i get a dog, it'll definitely be a medium-sized dog (i.e. not a big lab/dalmation/husky/German sherpherd, nor a small chihuahua/terrier/shit-tzu/lap dog).

so-- i dont know if i have the time to get a dog, but if i do, i'll definitely put in the time. i want an affectionate loving pet, and i dont know if a cat will be very sociable. i'd like to go on walks, take my pet outside, bring it travelling, and i dont know how feasible that would be with a cat (though i could scratch that, and keep kitty at home). so what do you think?