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aliki ([personal profile] aliki) wrote2004-03-11 09:44 am
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Why Middle-Born Kids Lose Out

Inequality begins at home. The children born in the middle of the family are at a much higher risk than their older or younger siblings of not being as successful as an adult. It's not about birth order. It's about the pecking order--and the economic disparities that naturally occur based on where you land in that order.

So says New York University sociologist Dalton Conley, author of the groundbreaking book "The Pecking Order: Which Siblings Succeed and Why." His startling conclusions are based on an exhaustive data analysis of the 1990 United States Census, the General Social Survey conducted by the University of Chicago over the last 30 years, and a landmark study that was launched in 1968 by the University of Michigan, as well 175 interviews with 75 families from around the country.

Conley's premise: Middle-born children, who never have the experience of being the only child in the family, suffer financially compared with their siblings.

The New York Times reports that Conley's research uncovered these disheartening facts:
- Middles are less likely to receive financial support for their education.
- Middles may do less well in school than their siblings.
- The chance that middle-borns will attend a private school drops by 25 percent with the birth of a third child.
- The chance that middles will be held back a year in school increases severalfold with the birth of a third child.

But this is the most astonishing assertion of all: Conley says that while economic differences between families explain 25 percent of the nation's income inequality, the rest--fully 75 percent--is explained by the economic differences between siblings. Think Bill Clinton and Roger Clinton. Or Jimmy Carter and Billy Carter. Or William Bulger, president of the University of Massachusetts, and his brother James Bulger, a fugitive who is on the FBI's "10 Most Wanted" list.

"There's this enormous issue of sibling inequality that we sweep under the rug because we want to see the family as a haven in a harsh world, operating outside the dog-eat-dog world of American capitalism," Conley explained to New York Times reporter Emily Eakin. "But you can't think of the family in isolation from larger social forces."

He insists that inequality in families is not the exception but the norm. Children who have the same parents, live in the same home, and attend the same schools can easily end up on different sides of the economic tracks. Treating all the children equally may prove to be the hardest job yet for parents.

[identity profile] ex-rita.livejournal.com 2004-03-11 08:25 am (UTC)(link)
Interesting. But my brother has a full college scholarship, graduated with the highest GPA of all 3 of us, and not only didn't get held back in school but skipped a grade. But I guess that's due to my parents favoring him for being the only boy, sharing their interests, and being the only planned pregnancy (yes, they actually bring this up, as if it's my fault I was conceived out of wedlock). I will have to go ask around and see if my friends' families have the sort of dynamic the article descibes.

[identity profile] aliki.livejournal.com 2004-03-11 02:45 pm (UTC)(link)
I think being a boy plays a really important role in some families. As per the baby names (http://www.livejournal.com/users/aliki/216832.html) post I made a few weeks ago, boys tend to have traditional Bible-related names because parents feel they carry on the family name and theirn ames connote a certian level of solemnity (what is your brother's name, btw?)

As for girls, they tend to be more fad-driven than anything else (if a soap opera or famous actress names their kid something, everybody has it-- e.g. Emma, daughter of Rachel and Ross from Friends; Aidan, the guy Carrie dates from Sex and the City; and other names like Brooklyn, Maddox and Madison are names of famous celebrities' children).

[identity profile] queen-o-hearts.livejournal.com 2004-03-11 10:35 am (UTC)(link)
maybe this book will lead to insight with my sister!

[identity profile] pansola.livejournal.com 2004-03-11 12:22 pm (UTC)(link)
A two-child policy then, would solve 75% of this nation's income inequality (-:

(Anonymous) 2004-03-11 02:36 pm (UTC)(link)
Interesting. My sister (the middle one) also has a university degree, was in the majority of advanced placement programs in highschool and graduated both with a higher G.P.A than i will. That being said, she was/is always more emotionally needy as she always said that my parents never loved her...when in reality their lack of affection was pretty much extended towards me as well. My sister just never talked to my parents, and thus as an adult i've resolved my issues, whereas she hasn't. I remember distinctly as a child asking my father why he never hugged me, and it pretty much made me realize the differences between a north american upbringing and a chinese one. My sister has not and still does not understand that my parents are human and not perfect. *shrug*

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[identity profile] evil-communist.livejournal.com 2004-03-12 06:37 am (UTC)(link)
To be quite honest, I think that this is nonsense used to cover up the real causes of income inequality. Sure, middle-born kids may have more problems, but this being the main cause of income inequality? Give me a break.

[identity profile] aliki.livejournal.com 2004-03-12 04:56 pm (UTC)(link)
I think it's pretty interesting regarding the dynamics of family upbringing, that's for sure.

[identity profile] evil-communist.livejournal.com 2004-03-13 04:31 am (UTC)(link)
That it is.

[identity profile] aparecida.livejournal.com 2004-03-12 07:39 am (UTC)(link)
I read a nytimes.com review of that book when it came out, or possibly just before. I was pretty interested. I think that guy (Dalton Conley) is a little weird, but I give him a ton of credit for being an innovative thinker.